insults

dear garden,

I wonder why people get insulted in general. They should probably try harder not to.

Well, actually, what does it mean to be insulted or offended? I’m not sure. I feel that I rarely get offended. I can sometimes get agitated, getting annoyed or such, but I don’t know if that counts. Maybe it does. In most of these cases, though, I don’t feel personally invested in my agitation, so I wouldn’t label it as “being offended”. There’s probably something more that I’m not thinking of. Maybe being offended just means being annoyed or agitated over something you find morally objectionable, especially when caused by someone else.

I wonder what’s morally objectionable to a garden.

Still, when Alice gets offended, it’s her problem more than anyone else’s. Sure, she can *make* it other people’s problems if she chooses to throw a tantrum or get revenge or hide and cry or something. But at the end of the day, the specific part where she got offended is mostly only her problem. Nobody else gets directly affected much by it. Mostly, they only get affected by how she responds to it.

So I wonder why Alice gets offended. Is it not preventable?

I mean, on her end, of course. There’s not much that can be done to ensure others don’t insult her, short of pruning them.